I was watching the Unison advert on television. Unison is a very large union in the UK that supports the majority of NHS workers. It is an exceptionally good advert because it shows a single person walking with an army of support behind her from lawyers, to union representstives and so on. This reminded me that when you are suffering adult bullying at work it is an idea to keep this list handy so you also have a ready army of support.
here it is!
YOU – take control of your situation
UNION – think about getting in one. Consult your union in the early stages and not just your rep,phone their help lines in particular. You may have to confront the bully at some stage but should never do so without advice.
LAWYER – your car insurance and households contents insurance can offer legal protections. Check what they offer. Many household contents insurance offer at least £50,000 for work related issues, tortious actions such as personal injury and other actions.
GP or Medical advisor – ensure your GP is aware well in advance if you suspect that you are suffering the effects of bullying. Your GP should support you and keep detailed and accurate notes on your health. Make sure you clearly assist your GP to do this by checking what they have recorded and asking that they keep notes that may later be relied on by you.
COUNSELLOR – consider engaging a counsellor, privately, through your GP or if necessary through your workplace if they offer an independent well-being scheme. Do not under estimate the assualt on your mental health by a bully and do not wait for help until you are mentally drained.
FRIENDS AND FAMILY – Inform supportive friends and family of your situation you will be shocked how many will recognise your plight.
SPIRITUAL GUIDE – Consider consulting your priest or cleric or pursuing some sort of spiritual course such as meditation, yoga or relaxation techniques at this time. A good teacher will pay dividends
CREATIVE GUIDE -consider adding a creative outlet to your army of support. A class with a good teacher or even the internet or youtube can provide a great deal of information. Hobbies provide both social and creative output and put you in flow. This means you are giving your already busy mind a rest. Do not expect to be perfect.
EXERCISE TEACHER or TRAINER – this could be through a class or free courses at your local council or via a personal trainer but adding in some social exercise will keep you strong physically and also give you a social outlet
You may well not feel like exercise, being creative or being physical or social however even going along to something can lift mood so if you do not want to go, simply regard going as practice.
We have repeated many times on this site the necessity of enlisting support.
Bullies seek to alienate and isolate. Do not let them, secretly build your stash of backup.